Non-negotiables: not just for dating anymore
Of course, I’m full of advice for her – after all, I was a
teenage girl once, too. I try to keep most of my advice in my head, especially
since she’s pretty independent, likes to make her own mistakes, and generally
thinks her “old” mom knows nothing.
Now, I’m no dating or relationship expert. Yes, I’ve been
married for sixteen years, but I also dated my fair share of…let’s not say
losers, but you get the idea. The advice I received when I was my daughter’s age
was, “Life is like a buffet, you have to try a little of everything before you
know what you like.” Ha! I piled a few questionable choices on my plate before
I found something just right, that’s for sure!
However, I think I have one gem of pretty decent advice that
I’m not afraid to share with my daughter, and I guess with you now: establish a
list of non-negotiable qualities in a prospective boyfriend and stick to it. You’re
never too young to figure out what’s important to you. Sure, those things may change
as you adapt and change, but you have to be able to define how you want to be
treated and with whom you want to spend your time.
You’re also never too old to set these values, either, especially
as they apply to your workplace values. If you’re working a typical 8-5 job,
you’re spending eight hours – about half of the hours you’re awake – at your
job. According to Strengths
Driven Career, “Being able to live your values at work is essential for
your joy, satisfaction, and engagement with your work.” Their use of “essential”
especially hit me.
Having satisfaction and engagement with your work is key not
only to your productivity but to your overall mental health. How do I know? Like
anything: experience. So I’m taking my own advice and establishing my own set
of “non-negotiables” for my workplace values. Care to join me? Let me know how
it goes!
Comments
Post a Comment